This week, I started and finished “It Ends With Us” by Colleen Hoover – a novel published in 2016, however only recently at the forefront of book lovers’ ‘to read piles’ following it’s praise on TikTok – of all platforms.

The book follows Lily who as a teenager would write to TV Talk Show Host, Ellen Degeneres, about her parents’ relationship characterised with domestic violence, commenting how she wishes her mother would leave her father and how she experiences that violence. Throughout the novel, as an adult, Lily experiences such tragedy herself, and when confiding in her mother, now a widow, tells her that if her husband is a good man – he won’t let her take him back; a stark contrast from her own fictional experience.

Whilst Lily’s parents’ relationship and violence within that is of course important, and provides for a relatable narrative of how children experience their parents’ relationships, it is actually the way the author demonstrates and sets the scene for an incredibly wonderful character, who as a reader I fell in love with, to turn violent. It happens in a matter of lines, and when it happens, it literally takes your breath away. This book is for some people their reality – you may enter a relationship with the most incredible person, only for that to turn sour very quickly, and in a matter of seconds.

In no way does this novel romanticise domestic violence  – it in fact provides for a very relatable and realistic scene that far too many people are in.

Within the domestic violence team here at Ringrose Law, we see a stark amount of people who come to us seeking assistance, whether via domestic violence support groups, or those who are managing their situation on their own. It is a terrifying situation for them to be in, but these people are taking that step to ensure that their safety – of which is so important – is maintained and to ensure that they cannot be abused again.

In 2020, 2.3 million adults aged 16 to 74 years experienced domestic abuse – 1.6 million women and 757,000 men – this is not okay.

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